Do you feel “unsuccessful” as an immigrant in Canada?

Is self-bullying the most timeless style of motivation or demotivation?

When you forget about your goal and start thinking about words, thoughts of family, friends, and relatives?

Why could you feel “unsuccessful” in immigration as an immigrant in Canada?

New questions and new boundary breaks in our mind at the 14th Open-Minded Meeting occurred last Tuesday, August 6th.

Our well-known circle format with a friendly atmosphere at Platform Calgary became more than a place for meetings. Good known and new faces at the meeting proved time and time again that soft networking works. We were sharing the stories, the reasons why we have changed lives, and what we are dreaming of now, the job, the life!

Do you feel self-bullying on you, or guilty because of your choice?

For this and other questions, a special guest and friend of millions of people – Kalyani Pardeshi, discussed and shared her own story and how to build a healthy mind as an immigrant without bullying yourself.

You could see her in TEDx Talks, Kalyani Pardeshi, self-bullying interventionist, multiple award-winning author & certified Flowcess trainer/consultant combating the inner critic/bully so that every person feels safe to be themselves. Author of the “Unbullied: 14 techniques to silence the critics” - the book that helps grow potential and improve esteem.

Her story, her power, and belief in the right of the decision. As newcomers, as immigrants in this meeting, we focused on exploring and discussing how self-bullying affects us, what the reason is and how to live with it or solve it.

We know sometimes we compare ourselves with others, but why, what is the reason why we continue to blame and self-bullying?Our amazing speaker shared the behavioral archetypes that *can* be self-bullying. Be aware, I found my red flag, did you?

The behavioral archetypes:

Overachiever - seeks worth and value in achievements.
The Underdog - thriver on proving others wrong.
The Pollyanna - always looking on the bright side without acknowledging anything else.

These behaviors could come from:

Past trauma
Defense mechanism
Guilt
Response to what others say/believe
Replicating the behavior of a role model adult

If you have someone who doubts you, or complains about your decisions, just let them, but never forget the reason why you do it, why you decided, and what you wish. In that case, no one couldn`t affect you and your decisions. Live your own life.

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We want to thank everyone who joined us for this amazing event! You all are amazing and unique!

More tips and tricks, more fun, and soft-networking at our meetings!

Still wondering if you should join us? The Open-Minded Meetings offer a unique space for exploration and connection.

Keep an eye out for announcements about the next gathering. Don't miss this opportunity to connect with other freethinkers and curious minds!

Author: Mariia Plechak

Photos: Vlada Bartenieva

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